Like a cappuccino, are goals out-dated?
First let me confess, I’m a ‘to-do’ list freak. Not sure what age it started but I’d be lost without them. I have multiple ‘to-do’ list stationery pads in all shapes, sizes and colours. To add to my freakishness, there’ve been times when I’ve done something that wasn’t on my ‘to-do’ list and to someone like me, that means only one thing. Yep, adding it just so I can tick.
What does this have to do with goals being out-dated?
Well, it surprised me that someone who thrives on actions and outcomes was not so big on setting goals.
I thought goals were very 1980’s.
Here’s the thing. I had to change. I am after all a life coach and setting goals is a non-negotiable for my clients so I kind of needed to start walking my talk.
Am I convinced life is better with goals? Let me share a recent example.
I set myself a goal of completing the 30k Coastrek walk on 28 July 2017. Specific and with a deadline. I got my hands on an 8-week training program (good to have a plan) which I loved because I knew exactly what I had to do and when I had to do it (boom, right there is my ‘to-do’ list). I was confident it was achievable and realistic, as I knew I could build on my already established fitness base.
Most importantly, it was a meaningful goal and meaningful because I value maintaining good health and it’s smart to align a goal to a personal value. I was a woman on a mission and it felt good. Lists and all, I liked that woman.
Now whilst I’m impressed by my efforts so far, here’s what happened.
When I completed the walk, despite the hip and knee pain, I was as high as a kite on the feeling that comes with achieving something.
For days and weeks after, I felt lost. I was missing the physical challenge of the weekly training walks and the focus I had to achieve my goal.
Going back to my usual exercise routine felt desperately underwhelming, dare I say, boring. It appeared I needed that bigger goal, a greater purpose in this area of my life.
Back when I set the goal, I observed a sense of energy and direction. My exercise routine had a greater purpose.
It also confirmed the power of a written goal. I stuck that damn training program on the fridge and on a notice board in my office. It helped imprint in my subconscious exactly what I needed to do to cross the finish line.
Although I still think a Cappuccino is very yesterday, I no longer believe goals are out-dated. There are too many benefits!
Let me leave you with some tips on setting goals.
Set a goal that aligns to your values. If you’re not clear on your values, get clear.
- Once you set the goal, make sure you’re clear on why it’s important to you.
- It would be wrong of me to not include this tip – make the goal specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and with a timeframe.
- Have a clear plan of attack (your actions) and review often.
- Write the goal down and put it up somewhere.
- If you find you’re not taking action, go back and question your why.
- Celebrate when you achieve your goal.
- Most of all, have fun!
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Until next time,
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